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Detaching with Love

Please join me by reading the daily meditation from “The Language of Letting Go” by Melody Beattie and share your thoughts in the comment space provided at the end of this post (Click on the Read More button to read the complete thought for the day).

When I feel myself reacting to a given situation I remind myself that my feelings are about me and not about what the other person is doing.  I choose how I feel about specific situations given how I am perceiving them.  When I take things that others do personally, then I loose my objectivity of the situation.

As I realize that I am feeling anxious, angry, frightened or what ever the feeling may be, I realize that I need to spend some time with my thoughts and feelings to gain a better understanding of what I need to do to take care of myself.  The more I understand the concept of the freedom to live and let live, the easier it is for me to love myself and others without judgement.  Note that I said it gets easier but I do not mean to communicate that I can do this perfectly.  This journey of self discovery lasts a life time and in that life time I get to experience all of my feelings so that I can gain a better understanding of my life.

In this process of being impacted by my experiences, I learn more about myself.  As I learn about how I feel and think I make choices about how I want to view things and then I get to choose how I want to feel about the experience.  As I gain insights into my soul I feel free to let go of the experience and let it take flight.  This process of letting go allows me to be open to the next experience.

I have found that if I also practice this in my relationships I am able to love and detach from the outcome of experiences that those whom I love share with me.  I have learned that I can witness their experiences, their process and their transformation but I can not control or change how they choose to perceive or feel about their experiences.  This awareness allows me to continue to Detach with Love.

Today: I strive to love and appreciate my relationships by witnessing their transformation instead of trying to control it.

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